Pain Vs. Suffering
Suffering is not a measurement of the amount of love you have for others or our level of commitment. Disappointments, frustration, hurt feelings, or egos, even abandonment or death, should not be construed reasons for suffering. You may feel pain when experiencing any of these things, yet if you allow the pain to linger in your mind indefinitely, you are creating unnecessary suffering for you and others. Your response to that pain causes the suffering, not the pain itself.