How to support someone with depression? There’s a lot being said about people who suffer from it and how to get help but I feel like not a lot is being said or expressed by those who have a loved one that suffers from depression.

I am one of those. A very dear person in my life has struggled with depression for years. It is hard for me to talk about this and I won’t go into details about my loved one ordeal.  This is video is for you, the person who has a loved one who may be depressed. your support and encouragement can play an important role in his or her recovery.

Check out the video here:

I promise you, they appreciate it, even though it feels like you’re repeating yourself over and over and nothing. Rest assure, you MUST take care of yourself as well.

What you need to remember:

• It is not personal
• This is not a game, it is serious
• Ignoring it, won’t make it go away
• You. Can’t. Fix. It.

BUT your are the first line of defense in the fight against depression. Always remember that 2 ears 1 mouth ratio. Just encourage them to talk in a kind way and listen, listen, listen.  And of course, ask if they need advice – don’t just offer it.

You can also try asking questions like:

• Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?
• How can I best support you right now?
• Have you thought about getting help?

Avoid saying:

• Just snap out of it.
• What’s wrong with you?
• Shouldn’t you be better by now?
• It’s all in your head.
• We all go through times like this.
• Look on the bright side.
• You have so much to live for why do you want to die?
• I can’t do anything about your situation.

How to do take care of yourself???

• Set boundaries: ask your loved one to get a therapist
• Take some time for yourself every day, especially if you live with the depressed person
• Seek support from a trusted friend – make sure they are discreet
• Keep living your own life